Checking out your favorite Penthouse centerfold’s turn ons and pet peeves is another way you can go, but I’d stick to delving into the deep underbelly of erotica. Not all erotica is that deep and shocking – most of it reads like a romance novel with sex, sex, sex! But good erotica, can make you discover things about yourself you had no idea even existed.
Sex and imagination go hand in hand, but imagination can only go so far without a little bit of inspiration and some of us are sadly lacking in that department. Luckily, there are people who dedicate their lives to figuring that shit out and wrapping it in a nice little package for you: writers.
It’s a writer’s job to put their imagination to work and light a spark in your gut, or a little further south if we’re talking about an erotica writer. I recommend anthologies for this purpose: the variety of writers and voices contained in an anthology will increase the chance you’ll find something that tickles your fancy.
Alison Tyler, Rachel Kramer Bussel, and Violet Blue are some big names in the erotica biz both as writers and editors. Most of these anthologies are edited to suit a particular theme: bondage, lesbian, couples, gay, kinky, anal, or even firemen fantasies, so there’s something for everyone. If you’re new to the scene, a good place to start are the yearly “Best of …” series. Check out Cleis Press if you’re interested. They have a stellar selection and they’re the “ultimate in sexuality”.
I know some of you will be totally bored by the idea of erotica when you can watch porn, but erotica can go where porn can’t: it can be as realistic as you want or as far fetched as you want, there are no budgetary restrictions, it’s more discreet if you’re on your daily commute to work, it’s great for phone sex play in long distance relationships, and most importantly it’s a great discovery tool.
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