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Gillian Sloan is a petite brunette MILF with the girl next-door look, but she’s on the edge enough to indulge any man’s fantasy, and doubles as a professional dominatrix.
For the past four years, she has been a featured girl at Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch, in addition to being featured in adult magazines and films, she’s working on an autobiography about her time as a courtesan that will provide readers with an inside look of what it’s really like to work at one of the most famous bordellos on the planet, and she will offer tips to spice up the average woman’s sex life and encourage their sexuality and sexual prowess.
An Intro to the World of BDSM
With all the recent talk and discussions about 50 Shades of Grey, BDSM is now in the forefront as a way to spice up a sex life. There are many fun and safe ways to incorporate it into your world. In order to enjoy it, it’s important to understand that steps must be taken to bring you the maximum enjoyment, while still staying with your personal comfort level.
Now, women are having their interests piqued just from reading this very popular book. I believe it to be the story itself, as well as the BDSM. The thought of submitting to an attractive man, doing what he wants to please him and then getting validation and appreciation from him is very sexy and alluring to many women out there. And, there’s nothing wrong with that. Imagination and mindset are a pivotal part of what makes sex fulfilling.
Curling up with hot erotica, a favorite toy and a glass of wine can be very enjoyable. I am always on the lookout for good book to spend a quiet night. The racier and dirtier the novel, the hotter I find them. Now, back to the subject at hand…BDSM.
One of my areas of expertise in the adult industry is being a professional dominatrix; I find it disappointing that even in my own industry (with exception of the other professional dommes), that there are so many misconceptions about it. A particular pet peeve of mine is that so many laugh about it and make fun of it, when they have no idea what they are talking about and haven’t taken the time to learn what’s expected of them. I hear this a lot, “It must be fun to hit someone and call him names. I can do that. I’m good at yelling”. It’s a shame it’s being perceived like this, and one of the main reasons is that it’s portrayed that way on mainstream TV and media. It’s almost a caricature at times with images of a dominatrix looking nasty with a whip and a guy usually on his knees. Yes, this is where the assumptions come from.
A perfect example of this was with a client of mine. He feeling apprehensive about trying such a session and wanted me to be his first dominatrix. He had seen me before for different types of dates, but due to his travel schedule, he was unable to see me as frequently. A few years later, he unexpectedly contacted me, and I was honored. It always is a big deal for me to be chosen to be someone’s “first”. During this session, a less than professional woman saw my client and me, and laughed out loud at what we were doing.
She broke one of the biggest rules—it is never ok to interrupt anyone by talking, laughing or causing a distraction. Luckily, he didn’t hear it. After we were done, I did have a chat with her explaining how she could have ruined my whole session by breaking the world I had carefully created for him, and the time he was spending with me.
BDSM play can range from light to moderate to heavy and in between. I insist that anyone coming to me to play for the first time be very specific when speaking about his or her interests, and I treat it as an interview. Crafting a session is always specific and individual. I take it very seriously and won’t leave any room for any misunderstandings, before we even begin. It’s also a small community and first timers are often very nervous, because of the shame if anyone finds out about the alternative ways they seek comfort and enjoyment.
The more mainstream forms of BDSM start with costumes, role-play, light flogging, blindfolds, wrist cuffs and ropes. I would suggest to anyone who wants to try more extreme acts like acts being locked up in a cage, using the Catherine Wheel and engaging in breath play to do so with a professional who has the experience and can conduct a safe and discreet session and furnish a safe place and surroundings to play.
For those toying with the idea of trying the lighter forms of this world, I say go ahead and try it. Many couples are now playing with blindfolds and other BDSM tools in the bedroom after reading 50 Shades. More women are shopping in adult stores and even online to see what kind of toys they can bring in to enhance their relationships, and I have yet to hear any guys complaining. There are always new toys and lubes coming out on the market to experiment with. If you’re a little shy, the Internet is a good way to shop and keep it private. No one will know what’s in that box you have been waiting on. Get out there and start making those fantasies into realities.
Keep up with Gillian Sloan by her new column here on Peeperz and for more Gillian and hit her up on Twitter at @allofgillian.
