We all know that needy chick. You know the one; white knuckling her guy, not letting him even look in the direction of another woman. The one who will never introduce her boyfriend, and keeps him in a corner with her at parties. It never fails to entertain me and it always goes the same way. She has to go to ladies’ room sometime doesn’t she? And if she does take the leap to go to the ladies’ room, that is where it gets interesting!
She’ll come out to find her guy talking to another woman, cocktail in hand, enjoying himself. She will then inevitably whisk him away, with a rude nod to the other women that he was, (how dare he) enjoying a conversation with. I am NOT that chick.
This mentality rolls into the courtesan world, just a little differently. I always believed that one of the perks of seeing, someone such as myself, is that I understand and respect that my clients are not looking for a lifelong commitment, white picket fence and a dog. They were seeing someone before me and will be seeing someone after me; it’s a nonverbal understanding. The last thing I want for my client, is to feel that he has to sneak around to see someone else, worried that he will piss me off or hurt my feelings.
I have a particular client who is an excellent example of what I am trying to convey. We have a long standing three times a year ‘commitment’. We love our whiskey, and our tradition is to have one cocktail together while we catch up, before we do anything else. One night, he was refreshingly honest with me and proposed that he would like to continue seeing me (and he does still see me), but he felt like trying something different. He asked me if I could suggest someone just like me, but different. After a good laugh about how he worded his request; I, of course, thought about it and suggested someone.
I promised I would set it up, we toasted to it. I made the introduction the next night over dinner and a bottle of champagne. They hit if off! I thought it was so cool that this guy felt comfortable enough to confide in me like that. He now has TWO favorite courtesans; and has even seen both of us at once a few times. What I am trying to get across is that; by NOT being ‘the needy chick’ and keeping my professionalism, it paid off personally AND professionally—I even got to be a matchmaker for a night!
So, to all the needy chicks out there…take my advice as a courtesan! As a professional, you never want to be afraid to lose a client. In this business, it’s variety. Take the high road and your reputation will continue to flourish. On the personal side, always remember that confidence is sexy. Think of the things you have learned from conversations, and with him doing the same, it will give you more to share.
Read previous installments of Gillian’s series here: Tales Of A Courtesan