Is Your Bromance Ruining Your Love Life?

by Calvin Clark on November 6, 2018

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Bromance films have been popular for the last decade. Stories about unlikely friends being thrown into outrageous situations only to come out as inseparable buddies are seemingly wholesome entertainment. Thanks to movies like Pineapple Express and The Hangover, men have been desperately seeking their platonic male companions to share their lives with.

For the most part everyone is fine with straight men having strong friendships with other men but researchers at the University of Winchester aren’t convinced.

According to their hypothesis, heterosexual men with close male friends are less likely to seek out emotionally satisfying relationships with women. They argue that these young men who put too much importance on their friendships with other men neglect their romantic partners. This preference combined with the extended period of adolescence associated with millennials could create unhealthy attitudes towards women.

While it may sound obvious to some of us that negative attitudes towards women are more of the cause than the effect, we don’t have grant proposals littered with buzzwords we’re trying to sell.

This study is in the very early stages of development. Researchers have done an initial survey on just 30 undergraduates and 28 of them confirmed they would rather talk about their emotional issues with close male friends than girlfriends. Though this small sample size is small Dr. Stefan Robinson finds the results to be “significant and worrying.” He elaborates that:

“Because heterosexual sex is now achievable without the need for romantic commitment, the bromance could increasingly become recognized as a genuine lifestyle relationship, whereby two heterosexual men can live together and experience all the benefits of a traditional heterosexual relationship.”

We’ve read studies conducted on a wider range of older men that more or less state the opposite. In these articles it was suggested that men who confide in others in emotionally intense, nonsexual friendships become better lovers and more capable of sustaining romantic relationships. Bromances are good for maintaining one’s emotional and mental health which in turn improves other boner-influenced relationships.

Though he more than likely picked 30 nerds for his survey, Dr. Robinson is still correct that many young men have problems establishing emotional connections with women and see them as little more than sexual objects. Whether this is caused by excessive bromances or just good old fashioned insecurity is up to science to decide.

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